Dating in 2014: Do you have your smart phone??
Dating VS. Hooking Up
By: Ashli Juliana Christmon
Have you ever worried, “There’s nobody out there for me,” I want you to know that there is hope. About 44 percent of adults in America are single meaning that there are over 100 million unattached single folks out there according to the U.S Census stats. So there is truly someone for you out there in this great big world. Though how do we find out who the one could be in this huge sea of single men and women swimming around. Where do we go to meet a potential person who is worth our time to date? Well in 1985 you could go down to the local club and meet the love of your life just ask my parents. Though in 2014 I could never imagine meeting someone who was worth dating in a club at least here in Cincinnati I couldn’t. I know meeting the one in college is something that definitely still happens I have seen and know plenty of people who were lucky enough to experience that. Though let’s be real with #MCM and #WCW set as a weekly ritual making it all about how good the person looks following the notion of #S4S, are they the standards of this generation? Does the practice of “courtship” and “dating” actually still exist today? Or does the technological boom amalgamate the dating world of the 21st century.
With all of our smart phones, tablets, ultrabooks, gaming systems, and most importantly the internet dating has become less of a chore at least to some. I believe that the once so called dating standards are rapidly evaporating into air. Some feel that the word “Date” should be eliminated altogether from the dictionary itself. For the reason that who really dates now or has the time and budget to do so. Apparently the expression now is “hooking-up” and unfortunately with the many meanings behind this term serves as fact about how confusing dating is now in 2014. With the easy access at your fingertips there are so many apps for download for “hooking-up” purposes. Between OKCupid, Tinder, POF (Plenty of Fish), How About We, Zoosk, Grouper, and etc there are many ways to tickle your fancy. All these apps have different approaches and calculations on finding a match while some are just based strictly on physical attraction. Hey though you can’t forget the #1 used method for “hooking-up” can you guess what that could be? Ill give you a hint If I really wanted to “hook-up” this is all I would have to say “WYD”. That’s right TEXTING.
Texting is suppose to be this way to easily communicate with someone in a short manner of time. Texting is the act of composing and sending a brief, electronic message between two or more mobile phones. Sounds simple right. WRONG! I was reading the New York Times article The End of Courtship By: Alex Williams and in this piece Ms. Silverman said it best she said that “Dating culture has evolved to a cycle of text messages, each one requiring the code-breaking skills of a cold war spy to interpret.” I feel like that is a pretty honest interpretation of what texting really is. Instead of dinner-and-a-movie, which seems as outdated as a rotary phone, we make plans over texts, Facebook posts, instant messages and other “non-dates” that are leaving our generation confused about how to land a boyfriend, girlfriend, or a meaningful relationship. “It’s one step below a date, and one step above a high-five,” she added. Dinner at a romantic new restaurant? Forget it. Women in their 20s these days are lucky to get a last-minute text to tag along.
Traditional dating or courtship was picking up the phone and asking someone out on a date that required courage, strategic planning, and a sustainable investment of ego. Now in 2014 people rather have the person join in on what their doing for instance — going to an event, a concert with text message, email, Twitter, or other forms of communication through technology. I mean in the age of Netflix and Redbox the work to plan a “hook-up” is effortless. With this “the “hookup culture” among our generation can now be characterized by impulsive, commitment- free (and often, alcohol-fueled) romantic sprees (Williams 2013). So does chivalry still exist...is it possible to really have date in 2014.
There is a percentage of women who keep the old dating traditions alive by refusing to accept anything less than what they expect. They are women of standards that subsist high on the top of the pedestal and will not take anything less than that. They also hold out until they find the one who meets their requirement of what they expect from their partner. “If he really wants you he has to put in some effort.” said Ms. Yeoh, 29.
So as men do they put in the work, put in the energy, and creative thought to receive these type of women? In reality if you have something easy like“hooking-up” why make it harder than what it could be by dating. This is where our generation get confusing. So for the people who are high on their pedestal are left wondering, where could all the good men or women have gone, this makes you want to question what could be the other person's intentions, because of knowing the once so called standards of courtship and dating have diminished. So too the year of 2014, where lies the confusing also exciting world of dating, I wish you luck, and strap on your belts. It’s all about choice, expectations, and knowing your worth with that you can handle dating in this millenium.
Williams, A 2002, 'The End of Courtship', New York Times, 13 January.
Dating VS. Hooking Up
By: Ashli Juliana Christmon
Have you ever worried, “There’s nobody out there for me,” I want you to know that there is hope. About 44 percent of adults in America are single meaning that there are over 100 million unattached single folks out there according to the U.S Census stats. So there is truly someone for you out there in this great big world. Though how do we find out who the one could be in this huge sea of single men and women swimming around. Where do we go to meet a potential person who is worth our time to date? Well in 1985 you could go down to the local club and meet the love of your life just ask my parents. Though in 2014 I could never imagine meeting someone who was worth dating in a club at least here in Cincinnati I couldn’t. I know meeting the one in college is something that definitely still happens I have seen and know plenty of people who were lucky enough to experience that. Though let’s be real with #MCM and #WCW set as a weekly ritual making it all about how good the person looks following the notion of #S4S, are they the standards of this generation? Does the practice of “courtship” and “dating” actually still exist today? Or does the technological boom amalgamate the dating world of the 21st century.
With all of our smart phones, tablets, ultrabooks, gaming systems, and most importantly the internet dating has become less of a chore at least to some. I believe that the once so called dating standards are rapidly evaporating into air. Some feel that the word “Date” should be eliminated altogether from the dictionary itself. For the reason that who really dates now or has the time and budget to do so. Apparently the expression now is “hooking-up” and unfortunately with the many meanings behind this term serves as fact about how confusing dating is now in 2014. With the easy access at your fingertips there are so many apps for download for “hooking-up” purposes. Between OKCupid, Tinder, POF (Plenty of Fish), How About We, Zoosk, Grouper, and etc there are many ways to tickle your fancy. All these apps have different approaches and calculations on finding a match while some are just based strictly on physical attraction. Hey though you can’t forget the #1 used method for “hooking-up” can you guess what that could be? Ill give you a hint If I really wanted to “hook-up” this is all I would have to say “WYD”. That’s right TEXTING.
Texting is suppose to be this way to easily communicate with someone in a short manner of time. Texting is the act of composing and sending a brief, electronic message between two or more mobile phones. Sounds simple right. WRONG! I was reading the New York Times article The End of Courtship By: Alex Williams and in this piece Ms. Silverman said it best she said that “Dating culture has evolved to a cycle of text messages, each one requiring the code-breaking skills of a cold war spy to interpret.” I feel like that is a pretty honest interpretation of what texting really is. Instead of dinner-and-a-movie, which seems as outdated as a rotary phone, we make plans over texts, Facebook posts, instant messages and other “non-dates” that are leaving our generation confused about how to land a boyfriend, girlfriend, or a meaningful relationship. “It’s one step below a date, and one step above a high-five,” she added. Dinner at a romantic new restaurant? Forget it. Women in their 20s these days are lucky to get a last-minute text to tag along.
Traditional dating or courtship was picking up the phone and asking someone out on a date that required courage, strategic planning, and a sustainable investment of ego. Now in 2014 people rather have the person join in on what their doing for instance — going to an event, a concert with text message, email, Twitter, or other forms of communication through technology. I mean in the age of Netflix and Redbox the work to plan a “hook-up” is effortless. With this “the “hookup culture” among our generation can now be characterized by impulsive, commitment- free (and often, alcohol-fueled) romantic sprees (Williams 2013). So does chivalry still exist...is it possible to really have date in 2014.
There is a percentage of women who keep the old dating traditions alive by refusing to accept anything less than what they expect. They are women of standards that subsist high on the top of the pedestal and will not take anything less than that. They also hold out until they find the one who meets their requirement of what they expect from their partner. “If he really wants you he has to put in some effort.” said Ms. Yeoh, 29.
So as men do they put in the work, put in the energy, and creative thought to receive these type of women? In reality if you have something easy like“hooking-up” why make it harder than what it could be by dating. This is where our generation get confusing. So for the people who are high on their pedestal are left wondering, where could all the good men or women have gone, this makes you want to question what could be the other person's intentions, because of knowing the once so called standards of courtship and dating have diminished. So too the year of 2014, where lies the confusing also exciting world of dating, I wish you luck, and strap on your belts. It’s all about choice, expectations, and knowing your worth with that you can handle dating in this millenium.
Williams, A 2002, 'The End of Courtship', New York Times, 13 January.